You’re Doing a Good Job
But I bet no one’s telling you that!
Being at the top is a lonely place to be.
- No one’s telling you that you’re doing a good job.
- You’re constantly worrying about whether or not you’re screwing it all up.
- Everyone looks to you for all the answers and sometimes you’re honestly just not sure.
- You know it’s up to you to “take care of business,” but you also don’t want to come off as mean.
- You care for and respect your team and you simply want the same in return, but it doesn’t always feel that way.
No one ever said leading a team would be easy…but they also didn’t say it would be this damn hard.
As a business owner, you’ve had your fair share of challenges, but this takes the cake!
Even if you’ve hired your dream team, things have come up that you just didn’t think of having to face. You’ve been left wondering a time or two, “What do I do now?” And some days, you have actually felt like running away.
Being a leader is one of the hardest and most gratifying experiences you will have in your career. But even the greatest leaders of all time have struggled, made mistakes, and had to hone their leadership skills.
Just like you couldn’t go out and build a rocket ship tomorrow without some training and education, the same is true for leading a team. Without some core foundations and some practice (yes, including a few crash landings), you’re skills are going to be lacking and you’re probably going to feel like a giant failure at some point. Don’t worry, it’s natural.
You’re not a failure, my friend. You’re just new to this whole leadership gig. And it’s okay to be new at something. So stop putting so much pressure on yourself to be perfect!
I believe you have unique skills that you can leverage to lead in a way that feels really good to you and helps you get amazing results without feeling mean or harsh. Here are a few ways I help women:
- Learn how to use your gift of empathy – but not become a doormat.
- Take charge in a situation – but not get labeled a Queen B (and I don’t mean Beyoncé!).
- Set clear expectations and hold your team accountable – without being mean or hurtful.
All these things are possible for you. It just takes a little support, learning to tap into and leverage your natural strengths, and a bit of practice. I’d love to show you how!
I’ve been in leadership and human resources since early 2006 and my work has been built on these years of valuable experience, hard lessons learned, and caring mentors who helped show me the way.
Maybe you’re like me, where many times throughout my career in the corporate world, I was told that I’d never be an effective leader by being overly empathetic or “too soft.” I was frequently told that employees would treat me like a doormat and walk all over me. So I toughened up and created a hard exterior to go into battle.
However, I found that the less I showed up as myself, the less effective I was and the harder the road was to travel. I wondered, could I lead in a way that felt more authentic to who I am – and still get the same (or better) results than I had been getting? I asked myself one day:
What if I just showed up as myself and said to hell with everyone else?
I started being more empathetic with my team, at the risk of being overrun.
I started spending more time talking with my people and getting to know them, instead of just assigning them tasks, at the risk of being “too friendly.”
I started leading in a way that made sense for me, that leveraged my natural strengths, and highlighted what I was best at – and it made a difference.
My team respected me more, outperformed other teams, brought the most creative and exciting ideas to the table, and I was promoting people left and right who were going on to do big things.
It was working and it felt amazing!
Is leading a team ever going to be a walk in the park? No. I wish I could say that it would be. No matter how great of a leader you become, you’ll always have employees who will challenge you, refuse to do what you ask, and push you to your limits.
If you’re tired of…
- Winging it and trying to figure out the actual right thing to do
- Struggling to let go and trust others to help you with the work
- Feeling out of control and worried your business is losing momentum
- Spending too much time hand-holding team members through every process
- Feeling like you’re trying to be someone you’re not
- Questioning your ability to lead a team – and wondering if you’re even cut out to lead
And you’re ready to…
- Be confident and know exactly what you need to work on
- Learn how to trust and let go so you can get the support you need
- Better understand how to maintain control and build momentum with your team
- Implement techniques and leadership strategies for greater team accountability
- Learn to tap into and leverage your own natural strengths to lead in a way that feels good
- Develop the confidence and courage to become a more effective and impactful leader
Then you’re in the right place!
This is for you, if you’re:
- A female founder who has been struggling with the transition into a leadership role.
- Done will feeling tied down by routine and tedious tasks that don’t move the needle in your business.
- Tired of Googling #allthethings and not finding what you need to help you solve your problem.
- Don’t have any more time to waste – this is your “make it work” moment (in the famous words of Tim Gunn).
- Willing to accept that you play an active role in the challenges you’re facing – but are ready to do the work to develop your leadership skills.
- Looking for a long-term solution to your problems – not just a quick fix.
- Not an excuse maker – you’re an action taker!
Praise For My Workshops:
Ashley, you are wonderful! Your leadership has been fantastic. With your enthusiasm and support how could we not be excited? I so appreciate all the help you gave me personally and am so excited to know if any of us need you in the future you are only a phone call or text message away.
Ashley, you are an amazing teacher and a fantastic leader, thank you for making class fun and keeping things interesting. Thank you for your wisdom, the amazing speakers who came and spoke to us, and your beautiful and funny personality. I know if I need something or help I will be able to come to you and if it’s in your ability you will help me any way you can. Never change, you truly are one of the best teachers I’ve ever had the pleasure of leading me. You know how to motivate your students and get them to believe in themselves, you help them find their why, and the ability to take their power back. You really care and take an interest in the people you’re teaching, and you take responsibility to help them succeed. Your passion is truly amazing! Thank you for everything you taught me and gave me.
This day gave me a break from the everyday routine and issues in the office in a refreshing environment. It allowed me to take a fresh perspective of the office and my role in leading the culture and efficiency. It is the first time I have been given the opportunity to hear about leadership from women in a very diverse group of industries. I have attended many workshops within my industry. I never realized how much I could learn by listening to leaders of businesses so different from mine yet with the same challenges.
Before I decided to take a workshop with Ashley, I imagined it scary and unattainable. Ashley helped break down those walls. Her energy when teaching the class was extremely positive and supportive, which got the class excited. Ashley helped us fine tune and pinpoint what we needed to do to make our businesses a success. She would sit down if you didn’t understand something and help you one-on-one and now I’m moving forward with my vision. If you’re thinking about taking her workshop. DO IT! You won’t be disappointed, believe me.